When we originally had the urge to explore alternative sexual activities, a lot of emotions arose that we had to get a wrangle on. It would seem that most people encounter feelings of curiosity, jealousy, shame, excitement, and even fear when they begin their journey into opening their sexual lives. These would, to most people, seem like normal reactions to the idea. After all, most of us have spent years being told to conform to the moral and behavioral norms of monogamy reinforced by everything from religion to the tax code.
Overcoming these emotions is a necessary yet daunting hurdle to experiencing the benefits of non-monogamy and doing so is no easy feat. For us (or more specifically, Jonathan), part of processing and understanding these emotions was to take a more objective and intellectual view of sex, love, jealousy, marriage, and human relationships. This post details some of the intellectual resources and thoughts that we used to get a handle on the new ideas and feelings we had entering the swinger and hotwife lifestyles.Continue reading Our Intellectual Journey to Entering the Swinger and Hotwife Lifestyles